Come on now, if you are anything like me you probably read the title of this blog and quickly dismissed it, possible even saying to yourself, oh this post won’t apply to me…
But it does. Because if I have learnt one thing over the last two years, it is that every single individual is worthy of their own attention. More so, you are worthy of being heard, of being respected, of being seen… but more on that another post!
Have you ever been in a situation where you have felt lesser that those who are around you. That those people have more experience, more knowledge, more money, are kinder, have more friends… whatever you scale of measure, that you have felt as though they are superior to you?
Let’s be real for a moment. Those situations f***** suck! Not only for the way you allow yourself to feel in that moment, but the ongoing ripple effects of feeling less than. I was recently in a friendship like that. I was sure that the people I was surrounded by were part of my journey because I could learn from them. They had far more experience, and from what I could see were walking their talk.
Then I woke the hell up and realised that it wasn’t the case. That situation after situation, and importantly, decision after decision, was working to teach me something… but it wasn’t what I expected. That situation taught me that I matter, and here I was thinking that it was all love and light!
The reality is, in that situation it took two to tango. I put my own needs aside, my fears, and when they arose my concerns… way way way in the back, to ensure those around me continued to feel important. I fed into the bullsh*t drama, I allowed myself to get swept up in it…
I allowed myself to be grateful for any feedback they gave me… even when that feedback was decidedly and clearly – “don’t forget, you are not special”.
How silly is that? That I had over the course of my life forgotten how special, and worthy of my life I am, that I was grateful to be spoken down too…
That’s why this post is so important now…
That’s why I am facing my fear and posting it anyway.
Because, what I actually want to share with you is why it was so important to fight back, to stand up for my needs and to kick the ass of anyone who tries to do controlling while being super nice plastic bullsh*t…. and if this statements resonate with you… I want you to say them outloud, be in a whisper or screaming…
It is important to fight back because:
- I am worthy.
- I am worthy of my own respect.
- I am worthy of my own love.
- I am worthy of being heard.
- I am worthy of being seen.
- I am worthy of my dreams.
- I am worthy of happiness.
- I am worthy of peace.
- I am worthy of balance.
- I am worthy of growth.
- I am worthy.
- I am worthy of respect.
- I am worthy of love.
- I am worthy of joy.
- I am worthy of truth.
- I am worthy of transparency.
- I am worthy of writing my own damn story, my own damn way.
Because at the end of the day, we are worthy.